He broke up with me, good terms but for his own sake. He asked for space and time but I panicked and messaged him n asked to call many times.. he was hot n cold through those days, till he ended up raging and blocking me everywhere one night: he wants no contact.
I am struggling a lot.. should I go for unlimited no contact? I'm scared he might just enjoy peace without me even though I'm sure the reason he left me is childish and he'll notice that temporary happiness and that what he lost is irreplaceable. I'm thinking about just a light merry Christmas message on Christmas. I know him, his ego will win and he might be dying to message and he won't..
Last updated on:2025-09-25T21:11:06+05:30
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I've seen so many people on this app in this situation including myself. I learnt that these kinda partners are labelled as avoidants. They do not deserve our love and effort, the "space" they need so badly hurt us, they cant communicate and regulate their own emotions. They rather hurt their own partner than confronting and solve the issues.
Trust me, I've wasted way too much time in these kinda people. We fell for their lovebombs, but their lack of problem solving skill consume us little by little, they'd blame us in the end when what we wanted was just to help them. Leave these people, they may be good people but not a good partner.
So true 😊
it is so accurate, the description u mentioned.
I only want to get unblocked n be less than Friends n more than strangers. As for us getting back together, it's a very small chance but I promised myself if he ever came back, I should not accept him on spot but rather test all the waters again n keep my self respect this time..
@Saroka avoidants don't see us as a person. They love the feelings we gave them, they dont love us as a person
You know the truth yourself. Don\'t hope for something you can't control. Find your peace. Someone told me "No one likes obsessed people"