just venting but the person I’m in no contact with is famous and so because their life is public and on display all the time I’m finding it even more difficult to stop checking and seeing what they’re doing. I can’t even begin to describe the power struggles I’ve had with this person
Last updated on:2025-09-30T14:43:00+05:30
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you think the “power struggle” was part of what kept you hooked on them? sometimes that dynamic itself can feel addictive.
it probably was! in the midst of it i didn’t notice, maybe it was subconscious but whenever they tried to control me in some way I’d feel like i was powerless and spent a long time trying to fix it when i should have just left
what helped me a bit was muting/blocking and setting little “check-in” limits for myself. like tiny wins instead of forcing myself to just stop. it doesn’t make the urge disappear but it softens it.
thank you! i’ll try this out. yeah it’s a lot like breaking an addiction. weaning myself off this person feels better than stopping abruptly and completely
i went through no contact with someone who blew up online after we broke up. seeing them everywhere made it 10x harder to detach. it’s such a weird kind of pain
yes exactly! it makes it so much harder to get over. so sorry you went through it too but i’m glad someone else can relate to this fairly unique experience