I have a partner who supported me for how many years, considering that I don't have any friends or family I can talk to. We've been together for almost 5 years and planned our future together. He cheated multiple times and was able to regain my trust by changing. But then he always does things behind my back and when I confront him, he says I'm paranoid and crazy to get mad over "harmful" things like those. I asked for his account to reassure me that he's not doing any funny business or else I will leave. He didn't think twice and said "no." I blocked him even though he keeps telling me that what I'm thinking is wrong and there's no need to overthink and that he only wants me. Don't get me wrong, this person is really nice but maybe has a problem being loyal, I think? He doesn't even realize his mistake and always get support from other people saying that I'm toxic. I feel alone in this battle.
Last updated on:2025-09-27T10:35:13+05:30
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I recognise this pattern in my former boyfriend. I struggle to break free, same as you. When you feel the doubt, remind yourself he put it there. And it causes you pain and stress. That's not okay. Throw that doubt away! For me no contact is so important. The longer he's out of my life, the less he influences my mind.
I think the reason why I can't let go is because I need him. He's the only one helping me with my problems. Another reason is that I'm afraid that he might move on faster than me and see him happy while I'm still struggling and I know that will make me feel unvalued
Am I wrong for leaving? Am I really paranoid when he constantly assures me by words that he's not doing anything wrong?
he sounds very manipulative! I dont think you're wrong. 5 years is a lot and the language he uses is awful