He broke up with me because he's an avoidant that got really attached ro me, n with my pressure n anxiety, he ended up feeling drained n wanted to break free. I really love him, the mistake I made afterwards was panicking a lot and - after they asked for space n time - messaging n calling till he ended up blocking me. I know they love me n I still, I just wanna get unblocked so that we leave the space to hope of a relationship in the future while we work on ourselves. I feel that this is step 0. I'm going no contact been 4 days already and wouldn't message them - which will shock them - till Christmas where m only gonna apologize and be light. Do y'all think it's a good idea? I'm only scared he mighve hated me for not understanding him, but since we're different and he's my first relationship, I didn't know much and I tried by my best wasn't what was needed. I also am afraid this silence of three months might erase the memory of me? What dyall think?
Last updated on:2025-09-29T21:10:16+05:30
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four days in and you’re already doing no contact, that’s good. focus on yourself, work on your anxiety, let him process too—apologizing later can wait till you feel stable
yes my problem is, I really panic, I get anxious. like yesterday he logged in into a game we used to play together, then he unfriended me as he saw me playing with friends and I panicked really hard and I almost broke no contact. It was the evey first time I succeed in not breaking it. He needs to work on his avoidance behavior and he's aware, I also need to work on myself. I don't wanna apologize and get unblocked then do the same mistakes again. I wanna love him right this time.
i’ve been there 😞 my ex was avoidant too and i did the SAME panicking thing… had to go full no contact for months before things even felt calm again
can I dm you? :(
you did nothing wrong you just have a different attachment style. going no contact will help h with your anxious attachment so really lean into it. to be fair the fact your are blaming yourself because someone couldn’t appreciate your time
of love is sad. u might not like to here this but u shouldn’t be with and avoidant it will just hurt you. u need someone with a secure attachment style who can help guide u with your anxiety. but believe be u are enough and did nothing wrong you both just have so different attachment style to make it work. but good luck on the no contact it really is the best this for YOU and that’s what matters ❤️
I think you should go for it! If the love was real. you'll never be erased. Just try I think he'll appreciate the apology
I am sure that love is real. Really, even though he is an avoidant m willing to put effort n time into helping him once he is willing to help himself. As for now I wanna be around and not blocked, I wanna apologize for not resepcting his boundaries no matter why I did it. I really am hoping this works because we're also long distance:((