35 days into no contact and 2 months in a breakup. He was the one that broke up with me but I was the one who initiated no contact. The past few days have been hard because it marked one month of no contact and 2 months of being broken up. My heart still aches for him at times and I’m still so frustrated by his actions. He made me feel crazy for my reactions to his actions. The thing I hate the most is that I sacrificed my own sanity for him and I was willing to sacrifice my own wants and needs just to be with him. How do you get over that? and how do I get over the first person I’ve ever been in love with? I don’t want to think about him anymore because that’s not fair to me. We both can’t focus on him because once again I wouldn’t be prioritizing myself.
Last updated on:2025-09-30T01:57:03+05:30
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have you tried writing down what you actually want for yourself, separate from him? sometimes seeing it on paper helps untangle all the feelings
i found focusing on my own routines, even small stuff, helped. therapy, journaling, and remembering my boundaries slowly made the obsession fade. it’s unfair to yourself to keep holding on
i feel this so hard 😭 i was with my first love too and did EVERYTHING for them. took months of no contact and journaling just to start feeling like myself again.
I know and we are both strong! I keep reminding myself that we are in withdrawal because the love and that feeling of being wanted is more like a drug than anything. I know healing takes time and we’ll make it to the other side, it just sucks so much rn.
me and him broke up 2 months ago and we ve been on and off no contact for those 2 months. i broke no contact after 2 weeks 4 days ago and it was the worst decision of my life. i know how you feel, loving someone is a full time job and it s terrible to suddenly be unemployed
YOU ARE STRONG.
I know there was a before him
and a during him
And now there is an after him
AND YOU ARE IN IT
but it s YOUR LIFE
YOUR HEART
YOUR FEELINGS.
Be at peace with it. you are amazing. he s failed to see that