We shared a healthy relationship and were deeply connected on a mental level. However, after all these years, she still wasn’t ready to be intimate with me. She said that while she does love me, she doesn’t feel any physical affection toward me. She even wondered if she might be asexual and told me she was wasting my time, suggesting I should find someone better. But the truth is, I’ve built my entire life around her, I envisioned my whole future with her, and now that vision feels shattered. I even told her that we could wait and try to work it out eventually, but she’s uncertain about it. It breaks my heart, and this is just my first day facing it.
Last updated on:2025-09-30T04:17:38+05:30
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do you feel more hurt by her not wanting intimacy, or by her saying you should find someone “better”? sometimes one cuts deeper than the other.
I’ve waited for five years, and I can honestly say that I’ve valued her and our bond far more than intimacy. That’s why it hurts so deeply, it breaks me to think that in the end, my love seems to have gone to waste.
first days are brutal, it feels like your whole world just cracked open. one thing that helped me was not rushing for answers… just letting myself fall apart a bit before trying to “fix” it.
I understood, my heart is always asking me to text her and ask her about everything.
i went through something close… my ex told me he loved me but didn’t feel that kind of attraction. i clung on tried to wait it out. it broke me worse. reading your words brought that sting right back. 💔
awwww I’m so sorry. I want to know how you put yourself together!!it hurts me , I feel like my whole effort went in vain . I can’t stop crying
I would like to know anyone’s opinion. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have anyone to share. I’m 27 years old now (male)