once i started with one text, i couldnt stop. what i failed to see was, if he does answer and its good, then what ? i keep getting anxiety and worrying? hear from him every 3 days just to spend once every 2 weeks with him just nodding off. he doesnt want help, he doesnt want to get sobber, nothing is going to change and the pain when going through that is much greater then no contact. its not fair to me or my kids.
Last updated on:2025-09-30T20:58:03+05:30
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the texting is more about hoping he’ll show up differently, or just wanting any tiny piece of him at all?
when i used to get caught in that loop, i reminded myself: “if nothing changes, nothing changes.” no contact gave me the clarity i couldn’t get while still in it.
my ex was deep in addiction too. i kept texting, hoping he'd want to change. but he never did. letting go hurt, but staying hurt way worse.