i am at the other side of the coin. we had a wonderful relationship embraced with trust. it lasted 1,5 years. when i gave her my instagram she found my old messages with another girl(aproxx 1-1,5 years ago). those messages look like more than friendly. like u look nice, show me your outfit today, muck bye type messages. i really dont think the other way than being friends with her, and i know she dont think that too cuz she is a old friend of mine. so i dont think im doing a mistake at that moment(pure dumbness i know) thats why i gave my instagram to her. my gf believed that i gave it on purpose to break up with her. i really love her. i regret what ive done all the time. i cant sleep and cant stop thinking of her. i tried to cut myself but when she learned that somehow she told me cutting myself will hurt her even more. i cant end my pain l. i miss her so much. i regret everything. she tried to see some other guy but she still in pain. how can i help her? is there a way that i can make her happy again without or with me. (i can do everything no matter what)
sorru for my eng. its not my motherlanguage.
Last updated on:2025-10-01T23:02:02+05:30
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do you think part of why you’re hurting so bad is cuz you’re trying to fix her pain before sitting with your own? like, what if the first step is you healing, even if she never comes back?
when someone’s trust is cracked, even if you didn’t mean it, you can’t rush them back to how it was. what helped me was stop trying to “make” her happy and start working on myself, like actually showing consistency over time. words don’t heal that kind of pain, actions and time do
i lost a girl i loved cuz she went through my old chats too. nothing even happened but the “flirty” vibe in those texts made her think i was shady. i obsessed over trying to prove i was “good” but it just broke me more.
If you had chats with another girl, I understand that that might come across falsely for her. You can't force her to be with you, but if you want to make it easier for her, tell her that you never ment to hurt her and that you will learn from your mistakes. All you can do is wish her the best in the world.