I was in. arranged marriage set up with a guy. He and i were planning for honeymoon in was very excited and did lots of planning and then he used to say some or other reasons and avoid talking about it. so it thought he is genuinely not interested and gave upon the idea. one day all off sudden after i applied leaves from after discussion with him ( considering no honeymoon is planned) he was okay and all of sudden he called and said apply leaves for honeymoon, to which I mentioned it might be difficult to add leaves after discussing initial leaves, and I told him you were avoiding topic and I also checked before applying leaves you told me not to apply for honeymoon. then he told its my fault I should've reminded him its just he was busy.
later one day I reminded him, and then he tried booking. he used to tell some or other thing. ultimately he made it look like he finalized it. I also mentioned I can share if money is the concern. he was fine and i started preparing an ordered dresses and got excited and then he told ticket prices were high so have to cancel.
I was really pissed at that time, I told him I already told you long back prices in December will be high let's plan earlier. and you were somehow giving me a feeling you were not interested. I know i should've not expressed. but I was really upset.
later he messaged me saying, if you are not even ready for adjusting a trip i dont know how will you manage rest of life im scared. I apologized him if he felt bad and I also said him it was more about memories and I was so upset. I called him 4 times texted him. he gave zero response.
he is making me feel I asked too much. honestly its not even his 15 days salary. I dont know was expressing disappointment so wrong and how can I not even show a bit disappointed.
can you suggest did I handle it wrong? how could I have handled it. what if he cancels engagement. how will i face people
Last updated on:2025-10-01T21:25:05+05:30
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when he said “if you’re not ready to adjust,” did it feel like he was genuinely stressed, or more like he was shutting down the conversation? just curious how you felt in that moment.
I honestly felt he took it to ego and wanted to let that ego out. because I said again and again you were canceling you should've said that you were not interested i would've not put efforts
wanting memories and expressing disappointment isn’t wrong. sometimes people just react badly under stress. journaling your feelings or talking to a friend really helped me stay grounded without feeling guilty.
he isn't talking to me at all no matter how much i apologize it he cancels wedding im scsred of how my parents would react.
i went through something kinda similar with my ex during wedding planning. i felt like everything i cared about was suddenly too much for him 😞 it’s rough when excitement turns into blame.
what do I do now? I said sorry many times he is not responding. is it i did anything wrong? and how do i fix it? honestly even if it fixes im scared like just for a reacting he is taking it to ego. does he expects me to be a dummy wife without expression and saying yes yes to everything