I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 and a half year, 2 days ago. we had many downs in our relationship and I know I should've left earlier. in the beginning of the relationship I found messages on his phone with another girl. She asked him if they could be together, he said he is excited about spending the night with her, they sent hearts to each other. Things like this. I didn't leave there, I tried to understand him.
Over time he installed dating apps, texted other girls a lot and it broke me. He said he doesn't know why he does these things and said maybe he is looking for validation is some sort. I tried to help him as much I could, I opened up to him, I had many 'firsts' with him and over time I genuinely felt like we had settled and he told and showed me how much he needed me a lot of times.
it ended when a girl on Instagram sent me Screenshots of a dating profile within pictures but with another name. He said he didn't make the profile and that someone else has made it. I broke up anyways.
It's hard for me to believe that I am not going back to him and the thought of him moving on breaks my heart. I have one big question in my mind. Why would he do that? Why, when we had so much together and our relationship really tured positive?
Last updated on:2025-10-02T11:19:20+05:30
Comments (6)
you feel like you’re holding onto hope he’ll change, or is it more about understanding why it happened to finally let go?
honestly I do hold onto hope that he'll change. it's hard for me to realize I need to let go for ever
it’s natural to want answers, but sometimes people’s actions have nothing to do with you. focusing on your own healing and boundaries helped me more than overthinking why
he keeps texting me and we talk about our past a lot, things that we never told each other. I know it stops my healing journey but I can't stop
I am right where you are. if you think about it it's a gift not understand who he did that.
ugh i’ve been there 😔 my ex kept seeking attention on apps even when we had “good moments” too. it hurts so much realizing he don’t value what you had