after the breakup he asked for dpace. I didn't know what that means, first relationship here, I kept on messaging and asking to call and venting to him till one night he raged and blocked me on every possible social media app where I can contact him. I messaged him after that from two different apps and he blocked me from them. I know we both still love each other but he needs to breathe and I need to win against my anxiety and the urge to text him.. but he also left the relationship to breathe saying he leaves the door open to getting back together. Now the door seems to be slammed shut with this block, what shall I do? I still have possibilities to text him or even just deliver a letter to his house, but also it feels like I should really keep no contact for both our sakes. Howeverr m scared he might really completely move on from me and think it's a chapter that ended, and simply never want to try again or let me be around again because I messed up??
Last updated on:2025-10-03T23:00:07+05:30
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im in the exact same situation. i don’t know whether or not to move on. everytime i get a text i check to see if its him :( and it it never is
I still believe truly that the reasons he left r weak, and that if he really loves me, he'll circle back once that 'freedom' is really not what he thought it is. But how long will it takes? and would he choose me again if he regrets that or would he find someone new? :((( n m stuck there
@Saroka honestly what i am going to do is give it about 30-50 days no contact. the way he left was cold, but i will wait about that long to see if he apologizes, not to get back together, if this makes sense? if he texts me during that time frame, and makes it seem like he’s open to something again i will wait a bit longer. but honestly if he doesn’t say anything within the next couple of months, i will try to move on completely.
when he said the door was open before, did he explain what he needed from you during that time? like what “space” looked like to him?
not really.. he just said he needed space n time. he never explained to me what kinda. He left the relationship because he was emotionally drained, he said he wanted to focus on himself and be happier, and that he cannot handle the flows of a relationship rn.
the only thing he clarified is that he didn't want me talking bout the relationship or us getting back together, he said it's all pressure and won't help us get back (because that's all I spoke about chasing him tryna bring him back)
when i get the urge to text, i usually write it out in notes instead. i never send it, but it still lets me get the words out of my chest. keeping no contact feels impossible at first but it actually helps you breathe too.
I'm fighting it with sending messages on insta where m blocked
Just stay silent. Mine also the same. He said he still love me and he needed a break and we will be getting back together. But it is actually not. He had another girl and even blocked.
my ex also said he “needed space” and i didn’t get it at all, i kept reaching out until he finally blocked me everywhere. it broke me because i thought if he blocked me, it meant i lost him forever. but honestly… months later i realized he wasn’t gone forever, he was just burnt out from me pushing when he wanted distance.
so he unblocked you afterwards? how did you do for him to unblock? and how long you waited?