My boyfriend broke up with me last night. The first nine months of our relationship weren’t perfect but they felt secure and I loved him more than anything.
About two months ago I started noticing him slipping deeper into depression. He admitted he no longer feels excitement about life or even love for anyone including himself. This started after he moved back home left behind his independence and quit weed for a job opportunity. He’s also been struggling with alcohol and occasional substance use.
Since moving home things have spiraled. I thought we were managing it together. Yes things had changed between us but I told him I’d stay by his side and support him through it. I never wanted to fix him just to be there while he found his way.
Then last night he ended it. I’m heartbroken. He said he’s lost feelings for me but I know it’s the depression talking he doesn’t even seem like himself anymore. There was a time when he’d talk about our future tell me he was meant to spend his life with me. I believed it. He was the love of my life. Now when he looks at me or anything I see emptiness in his eyes.
He told me this breakup needs to be final. That he doesn’t think he’ll ever come back from this.
And I feel like I’m losing the sweet loving person I fell for. I don’t know what to do with myself.
We’re supposed to see each other one last time soon but I know it won’t change anything. I’m terrified that when I look into his eyes I won’t see the man I loved anymore. I’m scared of watching that warmth disappear.
I truly hope he gets the help he needs. But I don’t think he believes healing is possible. He seems convinced that this depression is something he has to carry alone. And that breaks me even more.
Last updated on:2025-10-04T04:02:02+05:30
Comments (3)
have you thought about setting boundaries for yourself when you meet him one last time? it might help protect your heart while still caring for him.
it’s okay to grieve him and the version you knew. focus on keeping yourself safe and supported—therapy, journaling, even small routines help while he figures his path
i feel this in my bones 😔 my ex also fell into a dark place and left me feeling like i was losing him, not just the relationship. it hurts seeing someone you love fade away.