My ex went on a secondment to work in another city, to get extra money for our daughter's wedding. But he ate it all, now in a casino "with women" I don't know and to tell the truth I don't care anymore. (We're talking about over 15000€ which is quite a large amount where we live). Instead of putting his head down and apologizing, he asked for a divorce. Meanwhile, in the past I have forgiven him a lot, even infidelity. But that's it! I will give him the divorce on my own terms. Everything is overcome, don't let anyone suck you down, karma returns with interest. Not even his children want to talk to him, and he is in his own world. Let time pass, mourn and cry! I have found myself, I now have time to take care of myself, go out with friends, meet new people, without having to answer to anyone, I have honestly calmed down and this is also passed on to the rest of the family. Whatever is toxic and makes you sad, remove it from your life. It's not worth it, life is beautiful and short ❣️
Last updated on:2025-10-05T15:49:41+05:30
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wow, i’m curious — how did you start finding yourself again after all that? what helped you feel free?
I went through a lot with him, we were together since we were little, we basically grew up together, we also had some good years, it wasn't all bad. At first I thought I was doing something wrong, but when he asked me for a divorce, I had a panic attack, because it was something I didn't expect and I had no indication that anything was wrong. He took me to the hospital and on the way there he told me that I was doing it on purpose so that we wouldn't break up. I cried for days, I lost about 30 kilos because I couldn't eat anything, I took antidepressants, tranquilizers, then he blocked me from all means of communication, and when I received the divorce papers, I told myself he wasn't worth anything and I sent him to the devil, in the meantime I had a lot of support from my bridesmaids, my parents and especially my children, so I started to take care of myself, go out and have a good time, I also have a 15 year old girl who wants my attention, so I definitely had to stand on my feet in every way. In the summer we went to the place where he is for vacation, so that he could see his daughter, and he, because I was with her, didn't bother to see his child, what can anyone say about him. somehow everything clicked and I was freed. And now that I've calmed down and am thinking more clearly, I look back on all the years of the relationship and realize that I was ultimately in a toxic environment with a narcissist, my mind and soul have calmed down now!
sounds like you’re finally reclaiming your peace. keep setting boundaries and focusing on yourself, it really does heal the soul
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yes omg i’ve been there 😭 forgiving someone over and over only to get burned again. letting go was the hardest but also the best thing for me
once you pass the mourning stage you start to feel alittle better. everything starts to seem clear now.
you're a strong woman how I wish I can be this strong and move on from my ex I'm soo heartbroken now and even depressed. I love that girl soo muc
you have to let yourself pass all the mourning stages and then you will feel so free nobody is worth it, believe me ❣️