It just all feels so unfair. I did everything right. I showed up no matter what he'd done to me. I was loving and sweet. I rarely ever asked for anything and, when he inevitably disappointed me, I apologized for putting on fair expectations on him.
I think the part that hurts is knowing, he just doesn't want me. There wasn't some magic trick I could've pulled. He just never wanted me. He liked all the things I did for him but he's completely fine whether I'm in his life or not.
I always say, if someone wrote a novel about me, he'd get several chapters. If someone wrote a novel about him, I'd get a paragraph.
Why wasn't I worth it?
Last updated on:2025-10-06T19:55:09+05:30
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reading this i’m wondering… do you feel more hurt about him not wanting you back, or about how much of yourself you gave away trying to be wanted?
probably the latter
sometimes we give everything to feel that we are worthy of their love. the reality is we are worthy just the way we are, we don’t need to prove we deserve love. and sometimes we ask love from someone that can’t give it to us.
i’ve learned (the very hard way) that someone not wanting you doesn’t mean you weren’t worth it. it just means they weren’t capable of giving what you give. it doesn’t make the pain smaller, but that shift helped me breathe a little again.
No you showed him even though he gave you nothing and treated treated you badly you'll stick.You are worthy not for him though because he'll keep giving you crumbs you need reverse psychology him if you want him back if he can't do that then don't settle for it he's gonna earn you let him go above and beyond for you don't accept less
this cracked something in me reading it. i was in the exact same place last year… gave my ex EVERYTHING, kept forgiving, kept trying, and in the end he was totally fine without me. it’s wild how someone can be the center of your world and you’re just a side note in theirs.
The question is if he's worth you. He sounds like a not very great person to be with. If he doesnt see your worth then maybe it wouldnt be great anyway. Seriously, I know its hard and what hurts most is that we will need to start dating again and getting to know someone new. And that this is exhausting. But im sure its better than being with a dickhead who treats you like shit.
honestly, I think I need a long break from any kind of romantic entanglement. I need therapy
@NovaFlex532 therapy or even simply a consultation with a psychologist is always a great idea. it helped me a lot in the past, it's seriously invaluable. good luck!
literally the same situation i’m in :(
it hurts so badly but at least we're not alone