I broke no contact after more than a month.
He told me he missed me, that he was thinking about me every day, and that he was scared I might love someone else.
We talked on the phone for 4 hours — he opened up about his feelings (he’s an avoidant), and I was really happy to finally get a clear answer about where he stands with me.
Then, after the call, he left me on delivered for 16 hours, and we ended up arguing — so I blocked him.
He didn’t try to reach out afterwards, and when I called and texted him several times, he didn’t give me a single sign of life.
I honestly thought something bad had happened to him, so I reached out to one of his friends, who told me they talked yesterday and that he seemed fine.
That’s when I realized he ghosted me.
He’s never done that before since we’ve known each other.
I’m in shock and my heart is shattered into a thousand pieces you have no idea how much it hurts i just want to die
Last updated on:2025-10-06T15:34:03+05:30
Comments (6)
did he ever give you a reason before for going silent like this, or is this the first time? i’m trying to understand if this is a new pattern or something that’s been building for a while.
when i’ve been in this spot, the only thing that saved me was stepping back even though it felt impossible. people who ghost after pouring their heart out are showing you where they’re at. it’s not about your worth, it’s about their chaos.
my ex used to do the same thing, say all the sweet stuff on the phone and then disappear like i didn’t exist. that back-and-forth messed with my head so bad. i’m really sorry you’re going through it right now
being ghosted sucks trust me been there just remember it has nothing to do
with u just him making u suffer for his traumas. good job in going no contact 30days if u did it once u can do it again. we all stumble everyone and then i know i dont see it now but if u hand the strength to go no contact after a breakup with and avoidant u are strong and amazing and will be able to do it again and better 🥰
He's cold and hot towards you he's scared to commit and when you talked and he realized oh I'm loved and then he disappeared that's what they they do I can relate,you keep wondering what did I say wrong but jus' leave him even his friends don't ask about him because they'll go and tell him and he'll know he still has a hold of you leave him alone it gets better, disappear from his life he'll come back chasing Wondering what happened for now jus' relax and don't break the no contact again
That's fucking awful, im so sorry you're going through this. remember that the way he treated you is not your fault. this is awful, just horrible what he did. I cant even begin to imagine how you must feel right now. everyone in your situation would. what a fucking dickhead. Im giving you a massive hug from Europe, you are wonderful and your heart is too good for him, you kind kind soul.