We were high school sweethearts. He proposed years ago and I loved him with everything I had. I stood by him through every storm his stressful job periods of unemployment and illness. I made him my priority supported him financially emotionally and physically and never asked for anything in return.
I cared for him when he was sick helped him find financial stability encouraged healthier habits and even supported his family like they were my own. I became vegan for him despite the toll it took on my health gut issues vitamin deficiencies and intimacy struggles. I spent a fortune trying to heal and during my own darkest moments I leaned on him. But he never truly showed up for me.
After everything he left without closure. He’s now living freely seemingly relieved while I’m left trying to make sense of the betrayal. He justified leaving with excuses: sex veganism being single at heart my views on children and more. For a year he explored single life while still assuring me he wanted to marry me. He kept seeking comfort from me even when sick all while planning his exit.
I lost myself in that relationship my voice my self-worth. I later realized he was constantly chasing attention from other women. And when I showed up with love hoping for closure he gave me nothing but resentment and a note.
I don’t regret loving him. But I feel broken. How do you recover after giving someone your whole heart only to be discarded and explained away?
I don’t know how to believe in love anymore. If anyone has been through something similar I’d appreciate hearing how you found your way back.
Last updated on:2025-10-07T17:33:02+05:30
Comments (3)
honestly, the only thing that helped me start healing was cutting every line of contact and writing down all the things i gave up for him. seeing it in front of me reminded me who i used to be.
when you say he left without closure… did you ever get to say everything you wanted to him before he walked away? or did he just disappear one day?
i went through something so similar it hurts to read this. i changed everything about myself for a man who said he wanted forever but was already halfway out the door. it took me months to stop blaming myself for loving too deeply. i promise that broken feeling doesn’t last forever