greetings to everyone :) I'm here to tell you to that it get's better!! a month has passed, with therapy (I've been going regularly for a year and a half), training, solving puzzles, spending time with friends and family, I can finally say that I don't check my cell phone anymore, I look for him less and less in the streets and parking lots, I think about him less and less, I deleted all the photos and memories of him but with a very light heart. I realized that what I was experiencing with him was emotional manipulation and actually violence, trauma bonding that kept me in that endless cycle of hot and cold for 3 years and returns after countless insults, disrespect, rejection and then massive love bombing, etc. I accepted that it wasn't that, that a person who loves me, chooses me every day and accepts me would never harm me like that every day. now I enjoy putting on my make-up, dressing up, breathing with full lungs without stomach cramps, because I know that I am not being lied to anymore, hidden things and doing anything behind my back. I no longer have to wonder if his intentions and feelings for me are true or if he's just dragging me out and making a fool of me. And today I made an appointment with a plastic surgeon and I'm going to get my long-desired breasts!!!! People, keep your heads up. Don't run after anyone who didn't blink the moment you broke up and be brave enough to realize when something is non stop hurting you that is actually abuse and violence!!!! xoxo to all of you!
Last updated on:2025-10-10T13:36:44+05:30
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this is beautiful. was there a specific moment when it clicked for you that you were done with the cycle? or did it fade slowly over time?
In my case, the first step was therapy, then I told my family and friends everything that was actually going on in that relationship, everything that I didn't want to say before when I was with him because I know they would immediately tell me to get away from him. When I told them everything, they were a big support in my decision to never go back there again. They reminded me of those bad things and one day it just clicked that it really was bad and toxic and that that's not what love looks like and that I need to direct all the love I have towards myself.
this made me smile so hard. healing really does sneak up on you once you start focusing on yourself again. keep choosing peace over chaos, every single time
thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️
Yes girl!!!! 😍😍😍
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i was stuck on-and-off with someone who did the same “love then destroy” pattern. finally breaking free felt like breathing for the first time ❤️ proud of you.
thank you! we all can make through it. it's difficult but there is a light at the end of a tunnel ❤️