Not friends, not lovers

I guess I was lucky. When she left me 10 days ago, after an intense 5 months relationship, we talked for four hours — she explained everything to me. It was painful, but respectful.
The only thing that hurt was what she said when I left:
“I can’t imagine my life without you — not as a lover, but not just as a friend either. You’re the only person who truly gets me, and I know it’s the same for you.”
I cried, because I know she’s right. And I don't know what to do. NC is hard, but reaching out would be harder for the time being

Last updated on:2025-10-13T21:00:40+05:30

Comments (4)

sunzara
sunzara 5 mths ago

when you say “not just as a friend either,” do you feel like there’s still hope, or is it more about missing the connection?

LuckyCharm674
LuckyCharm674 5 mths ago

Hard to tell, really. The connexion was incredible (intellectually and physically) but I lied to her about my age (2 years) for the first 3 months and it broke something inside her. She left me 2 months later...
Will probably break NC in 1 month and will see...

KGrant
KGrant 5 mths ago

nc is brutal at first but it really helps. even if it feels wrong, giving space is what usually lets the pain settle.

Jamillabobi
Jamillabobi 5 mths ago

my ex broke up and said almost the same thing… it HURT so much to hear that and not reach out 😭