After an argument because I pressured him to talk to me, he blocked me on all possible social media accs saying he doesn't wanna talk anymore. Keep in mind love was still there, the breakup was because he was emotionally exhausted and wanted to be alone (had a terrible 3 year relationship before our 1 year relationship).
So I went for forced no contact. After 18 days just today, I found out he unblocked me on messenger ALONE. I didn't expect it. He didn't contact me but was like in and out messenger a lot checking. (he does not have any other ppl on messenger). I did not and am not breaking no contact as he clearly asked for space n time before the block. I'm happy, relieved, worried a bit over what it means. it's no curiosity because he could've peeled through his mom's acc or fake accs, also cuz he kept fb blocked, literally only messenger where we used to chat a loooot.
I'm keeping no contact so I won't hurt myself again, I already told him before that if he regrets it or wants to try again he has a home in me and he gotta just take small steps towards me n tells me he misses me.
What are y'all thoughts? btw he's the type to keep an ex blocked, and to really move on from friends who he blocks. He is quite the loner.. I also noticed a lot of behavioral change (through his mom n by checking his Steam sometimes) he was restless for the whole month since the breakup n mostly after the block.
Last updated on:2025-10-13T16:18:44+05:30
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curious, do you feel okay just observing him quietly, or is it stirring up old feelings that make NC harder?
it's not that bad honestly. I thought being unblocked will bring back the urge of contact but I'm calm, steady, yes overthinking a little on why he unblocked messenger alone? on if he misses me? which is already something I was worried about 10 times more before the unblock.
So no, NC isn't harder, it's actually easier knowing that he isn't moving on from me n that he's so conflicted that he opened a big door to contact but can't step in or step back. (and a little happier)
sounds like you’re doing the right thing by respecting his space. just focus on your healing and keeping NC—it’s the only way to protect yourself right now
hoping! I think it's best for us both now. He wants it, I am finding my peace during it. If love is meant to be and it's true, it will find its way! Just like the thought of opening the door to direct communication found its way to his heart after all the tension.
i had to go full NC with my ex after he blocked me too. seeing him online but not reaching out messed with my head so much 😭 i feel you on keeping boundaries.
It's hard I knowww.. past three days especially my heart would shatter. outta the blue he unblocked me! even though he didn't message me I felt so so happy, I feel so relieved now. But!! I'm not repeating past mistakes. I'm not chasing, not putting effort if he doesn't meet me there. I love him deeply, if our love was as true as I believe, he'll walk his way back. Slowly, in a shy way. What I learned after the block and full no contact is, silence is louder than words, and time and space can heal a relationship. It's all up to him now. I'm rooting for you! just fill your time now, allow yourself to cry or grieve for some minutes, try and get rid of checking his socials. and talk to chatgpt!!! it helped me so much
first i thought he might waiting you to text him by unblocking you but i think you made it crystal clear he needs to text you first. probably he is trying to make things normal step by step. anyway, its better keep no contact until he opens his emotions to you
btw I stated to him that we can't be friends when he blocked me. so he knows opening this little door only means opening his heart to me again. YES he 1000% waiting for me to text first, but girl.. I chased him so much. I want him to msg me so I keep what is left from my self respect, so that he can take it slow to his rhythm, and to send him calm energy.