I'm in the minority here, but I know the breakup was my fault; I don't blame her. I lied about my age at the start of the relationship. Only by two years. But it completely broke her trust in me, especially as she's going through a divorce after a marriage with a lot of lies.
She left me two months after finding out about the lie... The two years are not the problem in themselves, the issue is that I lied to her for three months.
For those of you who feel guilty because the breakup was your fault: how were you able to forgive yourselves?
Last updated on:2025-10-13T04:54:03+05:30
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i get the guilt, but have you tried talking it through with someone you trust? sometimes voicing it helps start forgiving yourself
I’m still in the process of forgiving myself. journaling, therapy, listening to psychotherapists on YouTube, even praying. I hope one day to feel free of the guilt, because not everything was my fault.
what helped me was really owning my mistake, writing down why it happened, and slowly learning to accept that it doesn’t define me forever. it’s a process.
i feel this HARD 😔 i once lied about something small early on and it ate me alive after we broke up. took months to stop blaming myself constantly.
find peace with yourself that is don't hate the you that did that try loving him and try figuring out why that you had to lie like find answers slowly by slowly and love him that did that because when you hate you'll still do the same to the next person and you'll live by lies just love the past him and make peace and you'll be good it ain't easy but it's something good I'm also in that process