About a year ago my partner and I were going through a really rough patch and he even broke up

About a year ago my partner and I were going through a really rough patch and he even broke up with me for a short time. During that break which felt uncertain and painful my friend and I created a fake Instagram account just for laughs. We were curious to see if guys from our city would message it and we’d kind of lead them on but never in a romantic or inappropriate way. It was immature yes but it was more about making jokes than anything serious.
In the middle of that I ended up messaging my partner from the fake account. I was spiraling emotionally and wanted to see if he had moved on. Ironically that account is what led us to reconnect he told me about receiving a message from it and I had asked him if he was seeing anyone. I appreciated his honesty so much and we got back together soon after.
Once we reconciled I completely forgot about the account. It stayed on my phone untouched and unmentioned. Fast forward to a few weeks ago he saw the account while I was on Instagram next to him. Out of sheer panic and embarrassment I started deleting messages in front of him. Not because they were romantic they weren’t but because I felt exposed and ashamed. He tried to grab my phone and now he doesn’t believe me. He thinks I was cheating and is ending our 3.5 year relationship over it.
I understand how suspicious it looked and I deeply regret how I handled it. But I swear it was a reflex driven by embarrassment not guilt. He doesn’t believe that my friend was involved or that the account wasn’t used for anything romantic. I’ve taken full accountability apologized sincerely countless times and even offered him access to all my social media to rebuild trust. But he won’t budge.
I’m heartbroken. I never meant to hurt him and I genuinely love and value our connection. It hurts to think that something so immature something I’ve owned up to could end what we’ve built. No one even knew it was me or my friend behind that account so it’s not like I was giving other guys the satisfaction of attention from his girlfriend.
I know I made a mistake. I’ve done everything I can to make it right. Is this really worth ending a relationship over? I’m just looking for some perspective. I still believe in what we had and I’d do anything to fix this.

Last updated on:2025-10-14T15:15:03+05:30