Good evening to the team... we haven't spoken since August 2nd, when I sent him a farewell message telling him that I love him very much and I think about him even though we said we couldn't be together. I told him, however, that this is the last time I'm messaging him, not out of anger, but because I need to close this chapter within me. I told him to take care of himself and not to forget that I love him... after that, I deleted him from everywhere. I also told him that my message didn't require a response, it was just thoughts that I wanted to externalize... he did reply to my message, the answer was obviously the one I feared, meaning he told me that he also loves me and thinks about me but some things led us to this point where we couldn't see them...
The thing is that I haven't stopped thinking about him, thinking about what went wrong, what could have happened, if he will message again. I have started therapy and it's helping me. All this is a hell in the mind of a wounded person, who still has a deep hope that the one who left might return. I would like you to tell me how you are experiencing it and how you are overcoming it.
Last updated on:2025-10-15T15:11:09+05:30
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did you ever feel like you needed to send that message to fully move on, or a small part of you hoped he’d say something different?
it's a combination of those 2.
what helped me was not fighting the thoughts. i’d just let them pass like waves. every time i wanted to reach out, i’d journal instead. it hurts like hell, but it does get lighter.
i did the same sent that one last message just to breathe again. he replied with “i still love you” too and it messed with my head for months. therapy helped me see that closure doesn’t always come from them, sometimes it’s the quiet after you finally stop waiting
I totally agree with you.. but it's so hard because memories play in your mind every day, and while you want to get out of all this, they imprison you.