i broke no contact three weeks ago, and it’s the worst thing that i have ever done. at first, when i broke no contact, he told me he had missed me too, that he realized his feelings during my absence, that he thought about me every day, and that it had been extremely hard for him. But for the past two weeks, he’s been treating me like crap. he leaves me on delivered for days. when I tell him it breaks my heart, he apologizes hours later — only to do it again, over and over. He doesn’t care about my feelings. He’s playing with me, even though the only thing I’ve asked for is a proper conversation so we can have closure and end things on good terms. Because despite everything, I can’t even bring myself to hate him. He treats me like shit, and I still can’t hate him. I still love him, and I hate him at the same time. He won’t even give me that final conversation because he says it hurts him to lose me, and he wants to stay in denial so he keeps ignoring me, leaving me on read, even though he knows how much it’s killing me. i hate avoidants. he ruined my fucking life and i mean every word.
Last updated on:2025-10-16T09:23:02+05:30
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when he started pulling away again, did you feel it coming? like deep down, did a part of you already know he’d do it again?
work on your self esteem. you don’t deserve to be treated this way. he is not making any effort he just wants you to keep you there. you don’t deserve to be treated like shit. work on yourself.
i know you probably don’t wanna hear this, but closure from someone who keeps reopening the wound never really lands. sometimes the only way out is to stop expecting them to care like you do
same here.. he came back said all the things i ever want to hear and then became cold again very painful how they can be like that and still i care about him so stupid
my ex did the exact same thing begged for me back said all the right things then disappeared like nothing happened. it messes with your head so bad. the push and pull is brutal 💔
hi sadly I broke no contact as well after (wait for it) 45days. actually he broke it sending a novel of how he missing me and all that (I blocked him btw he sent it from a burner account he made to my insta) worst part is even after 45days getting a message from him made the anxiety creep back. I couldn’t sleep the first night and after a day I sent a reply also about how I’ve missed him and how he hurt me. and guess what left me on delivered as well. so yes u are not alone avoidants are manipulative narcissists sadly i learnt it the hard way. please do not break no contact again. this time luckily i had tools to bring myself up back again quickly and after 3 days this time i feel like the relief i felt last time only after two weeks. if u need someone to chat and some help to move on we can chat on another platform maybe i can supper u with no contact. honestly for avoidants anything less that 3 months without therapy is just manipulation on those side and we dont deserve this after all the love we show them. just know u are not alone and of u do no contact the right way the benefits are there. even if he left me on delivered 3 days ago im already sleeping like a baby. we can really strengthen our minds and control our emotions with the right work
i’m sorry to hear that. i would love to talk to you on another platform bc i really need help coping with that it’s so so so so hard. i’m glad you’re doing good even after replying to him <3 they’re the worst ppl ever
@Lilith i don’t have facebook 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲