And 5 days since he unblocked me on messenger, and messenger only, the app where we used to talk and where we got to know each other and literally our main contact channel. A silent unblock. I knew for a fact he was waiting for me to message, simce I always have been the one to chase, fix, I was and am the steady mature person (and I'm two and a half years older). Yet I didn't. I miss him like death. The breakup was him getting emotionally exhausted and not being able to handle a relationship and wanting to be alone. He asked for time and space and no pressure. Here I'm giving them, if he truly wants me, he gotta walk back to me. Right?
I love him so much but I don't want him back as the same exact person who left..
Last updated on:2025-10-16T21:24:08+05:30
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when you say you miss him like death, is it more about him specifically or the comfort of the connection you two had?
both. What we had was so special, and I miss him as a person..
you’re doing the right thing by giving space. loving someone doesn’t mean letting them treat you the same way that broke you before
I hope the silence and space makes him realize what he is letting go of
i’ve been the steady one too always chasing and holding it together while they pulled away. it HURTS so much when you love them but have to stay silent
it does! it's so so hard! I'm too scared of losing them in this silence..
it’s good what you are doing of giving him space.
use this time to work on yourself. when he comes back he will find a different version of you. and if he wants to stay he will need to be a different version of himself to not repeat the same hurt
exactly! him opening the door to test, I could see, is my chance to prove I can also be calm and respect boundaries. I hope love will find its way to us back again, while I heal and yes! he also gotta be ready to heal. otherwise m good.
Just take space and work on yourself
I am and have been! I took the chance to sit with my thoughts and try to understand what I did wrong, what I want and need, what I should do and how I should be. Also I am tryna regulate my emotions and anxiety attachment.
honestly if the breakup was cause of him and his feelings, dont chase him. it will only make him think that you're so easy for him and that he can leave you again when things get "hard" for him and you'll still wait every time
very true! my thought too