it's been 14 days since our last contact and I miss her dearly, we broke up because her sister sabotaged our relationship multiple times. I still want her back and I did reach out before even though she pushed me away but I didn't give up back then until she started becoming warm to me again and rebuilding our relationship slowly that's until her sister sabotaged us again.
Last updated on:2025-10-17T06:57:02+05:30
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when her sister stepped in again, did your ex try to defend the relationship or did she kind of let it happen? just trying to understand how much of it was her vs her sister.
it's her older sister and the first time it happened she did defend it, she even tried to clear my name from the rumors that her older sister has spread to their family. The second time it happened, she had a fight with her father to defend me and I think that's her last straw because she loved her parents very much and after that she kind of just let it happen
i get why you’d still want her back, especially when things were finally healing. but maybe give it some time and let her see what life without interference feels like. sometimes distance clears the fog
my ex’s family got in our heads too and it tore everything apart. it’s such a helpless kind of pain when someone outside ruins what you were trying to fix
right? idk what her sister's problem with me, we used to be friend until I dated her younger sister with her blessing btw, from then on she started showing hatred towards both of us and started sobataged our relationship by spreading false rumors about me to her friends and family to the point her whole family don't even like me when they didn't even know the real me. I did try to fix things by talking to her father and explaining myself to her brother and sister, her father is the only one that treat me nicely when I talked to him, even gave me an advice, but that wasn't enough, I didn't have a chance to talk to her mother yet, but yeah her whole family still doesn't like me except her father I think
I would definitely keep trying. My ex never reached out to me first on multiple occasions, and it hurt. It made me realize that I cared a lot more than he did. I’ve always dreamed of a man who will fight for me. So go get your girl. Don’t stop trying to get her back!!! (but this time you guys need to leave the sister in the past) My ex’s sister hated me because I was her baby brother’s first serious relationship.
I did keep trying three times but it's getting harder each times, the first time her older sister sabotaged us by spreading rumors about me being a playboy, playing with girl's heart, have sex with whoever I want anytime, that kind of stuff to their parents but my girlfriend didn't believe her sister and even defended me to her parents.
the second time is when my girlfriend and I got home late after a busy work, we didn't have time to eat during work so we have to eat after work, I asked her if her parents okay with her being home late, and she said it's fine so I didn't think much of it until her eldest sister scolded me through text telling me to bring Leya back home immediately at their parents request, and immediately I bring her home. She said her older sister probably told something bad about me to their parents that makes them worried about her safety with me, I'm not sure tho since I have no proof but that's what she said, I did apologized to her eldest sister after that tho. After I got home she texted me telling me that her father scold her and forbid her to let me bring her home ever again, she asked for breakup because she didn't want trouble with her parents but I reassure her and even tried to go back to her house to apologize to her parents but she didn't let me, we didn't breakup that night tho. She started to despise her older sister from then on and even saying horrible things about her older sister to me which I advised her not to since it's her own sister and let just God judge her older sister while we being patient.
the third time is when my girlfriend is moving temporarily to another state with her eldest sister to help her taking care of her newborn baby and it's becoming hard for us after this because we can't discuss anything in person, only through text so her older sister again with her old trick telling their mother that I will be asking for her hand in marriage soon which I didn't even plan yet and since her whole family dislike me her mother got angry and scold her through text and she believed the rumors and scold me through text not because she not because she didn't wanted to marry me one day, but because she think I really going to ask for her hand in marriage behind her back without discussing it with her first and then she immediately blocked me, I was shocked since I didn't know anything yet back then but after I found out the truth I keep on reaching her to explain my side she keeps pushing me off tho but I don't give up until I finally able to explain myself and she finally accepted it and we started to rebuilding our relationship slowly our text from casual becoming warmer again but it didn't last
The fourth time is also the same but with a bit twist, her older sister telling their mother that when she going back from another state, she will be meeting me to get married immediately, this time she fight back against her older sister tho, she texted her older sister asking her about it, her older sister lied by saying that it's me telling my friends about it, and she just heard it being spread around. my girlfriend ended up broke up with me again telling me to move on and gave up on our relationship, she blocked me everywhere and she even blocked her older sister too lol
that's it until know, I tried to reach her a couple times after that but to no avail, so I just gave her space from now and wait until she return from another state. I can only pray to God from now on but I just got this feeling in my gut that she'll return to me someday, I hope so
@Nasri i really hope that she does come back. if you two truly love each other, you guys should consider moving away from all her family and starting your own life. that’s what my ex and i intended to do, because his family was so problematic that the only way for us to actually be happy, was to move away from them. it sounds like your girl needs to set CLEAR boundaries with her family, and stick to them. after all, if she can’t defend your name from her family…who else is she allowing to spread rumors, you know?
I'm on day 14. It seems like the problem is not you but her sister. I mean if she really wants this relationship then she should talk to her sister
She had a dispute with her older sister because of me, I did have talked to her older sister calmly about it and trying to keep things in peace but her older sister still trying to destroy our relationship