I muted his messages and statuses yet I keep hoping I will find a message of him apologizing I keep hoping he will stop being avoidant, I keep hoping maybe he wud realise that me writing long paragraphs is me communicating and expressing my feelings not nagging and complaining
why do I keep hoping he will change when he directly showed me that he doesnt want to.
Last updated on:2025-10-20T18:23:52+05:30
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Thanks to this message I think I have realised he is an avoidant, blocked him a few weeks back with to contact, but only today I found the reason for his behaviour, thanks so much and I hope you will get what you want 😊
They don't stop being avoidant ever, their avoidance is about control and the paragraphs push away. Thing to do it shut him off completely and make him realize what he threw away, so I suggest that you block him and focus on yourself, read, write, ask yourself what do you want to do today? Avoidants believe they will always have access to us, so remove it entirely...you will see how quickly they change.
honestly I understand completely even though I blocked him on eveything and want nothing to do with him there’s a little part of me tht just wishes he would reach out or show up to my house nd show me tht he valued our relationship that he valued me
do you think part of you still hopes for closure, or is it more about wanting him to finally understand your feelings?
I think its both
it hurts, but hope is tricky. giving yourself space from him, even mentally, helped me finally stop waiting for change
so i should stop hoping?
i did the exact same thing with my ex. muted him, still refreshing chats, hoping he’d realize i wasn’t nagging 😠it’s brutal when your heart refuses logic.
yeah I learned the hard way too honestly he is even avoiding me now I just decided to cut hi off cause im tired
Long texts are your worst ennemies when dealing with an avoidant. I learned it the hard way...