I was in a relationship with my ex for nine months and we were incredibly close. He used to call me his dream girl his person his zen. I even met his parents just a month before the breakup they told me they’d never seen him so happy. He once said we were all seasons like we could weather anything together.
Then came our first real disagreement and suddenly he said our differences made us incompatible. He ended things over text telling me he’d always care for me but needed to move on.
Since then he’s gone completely silent. I’m heartbroken and confused. How does someone who talked about marriage just shut down like that?
Has anyone else had an ex suddenly call things incompatible after months of love and deep connection? Does that mean they stopped loving you or were they just afraid of conflict? I’m trying to move forward but I keep questioning if I was ever truly the one like he said. Was I really that hard to love?
Last updated on:2025-10-17T21:14:02+05:30
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My ex, a long-term friend, said we were incompatible despite hanging out weekly and having much in common, except that he was a cheater and I wasn't.
when he said “incompatible,” did he explain which differences he meant? sometimes clarity helps, even if it’s painful.
I'm going to give you another perspective: that of the one who left...
4 years ago, I was in a 6-month relationship with a woman where everything was very intense, physically and emotionally.
Then, little by little, I realized that it wasn't enough, that things were missing.
Some I could define (conversations went in circles, we had very different views on raising children...) and others that were more about feeling.
I told her I loved her but I felt deep down that things weren't right for me.
When I left her (not by text, but looking her in the eyes), she didn't understand, but on my side, in fact, I had already made my decision at least 3 weeks earlier.
So, yes, from your perspective, you might feel like it came out of the blue, but in fact, that is never the case.
I regret not having talked to her about it sooner.
Today she is a friend and we talk about it often. But it served as a lesson for me: when doubts arise, always talk about it before letting the situation fester!
i know it feels like a puzzle with missing pieces, but sometimes people run from conflict rather than stop loving. focusing on your own healing helped me start to breathe again
i’ve been there. my ex did the SAME after almost a year together. one day he was “my everything,” next he ghosted. it HURT like hell but it wasn’t about me being unlovable