Yesterday he messaged me on my second Tiktok account. He apologized deeply and aknowledged his mistakes and unblocked me, he also said he's blaming himself and his issues for the breakup. The breakup happened cuz he couldn't handle the emotional weight n got emotionally exhausted after a traumatic relationship with his ex. He was nice, joked around, caring, I specified I'm still angry but I forgive him, I apologized as well (he said no no it's not your fault) and said we can't be friends. When I said that he said it's okay he's not here because he's desperate and wants to crawl back into my life. He was very guilty, vulnerable, opened up how he been replaying things and having trouble sleeping, downs etc..
I know he's struggling. But it feels like he doesn't want my help. But he also didn't mention wanting to try again. Although before the argument n block he mentioned that he will never close the door to us getting back together.
I feel a little lost. I want to be with him, in his bad and good, I feel that he still care for me and love is still there.. What should I do now?
Last updated on:2025-10-21T23:18:25+05:30
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when he apologized, did it feel like he wanted peace for you or for himself? like, was it about easing his guilt or rebuilding something real?
it felt like guilt was killing him, like really, guilt and conflict stopped him from functioning normally, which isn't like him usually. It felt like he needed so badly to get that off his shoulder, but a part of it felt like he really was sorry and was doing it for me too. However, not in big percentage, but it felt like he also didn't wanna force back into my life or ask for anything back. Atst we spoke before about a chance of us getting back together weeks or months after the breakup, so kinda clear the unblock and adding me as friends again was a step towards that.
However, I could tell rn he is still avoiding big reminders of me n us, he's still overwhelmed n thinking about everything and tryna get control of his life.
if you still love him, that’s okay. but don’t rush to fix his pain or carry it. let his actions show you what he’s ready for. sometimes people want closure more than a comeback, and it’s better to wait and see than to jump in too deep again.
my ex came back like that too — full of guilt, saying all the right things but still not ready to show up for me emotionally. it messed with my head for weeks. what i learned is that guilt can sound like love sometimes… but they’re not always the same thing.
I wanna tell him that I wanna wait for him to work on himself, then we can try again.. but..