Honestly, I've been struggling all day not to text him 'Happy Birthday'... I shouldn't, because I owe it to myself to put my dignity first. But please help me with some thoughts
Last updated on:2025-10-23T23:59:02+05:30
Help me😢
Honestly, I've been struggling all day not to text him 'Happy Birthday'... I shouldn't, because I owe it to myself to put my dignity first. But please help me with some thoughts
Last updated on:2025-10-23T23:59:02+05:30
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maybe write a quick note for yourself instead, like a journal entry, to release the urge. helps me cope without breaking NC.
i used to text my ex on birthdays for months before i realized it just kept reopening the wound. keeping your dignity first is huge
if you text him what could happen after? if you think it will hurt you more don’t do it. in my own personal opinion and situation I would say happy birthday but with no expectations. just to let him know I remembered and that’s all.
its so hard for us not to contact them even though its hurt a lot
we have to put logic first 😢
@WildHug913 like what kind of logic? I want him to comeback to me😮💨😢
There is no point my dear. It will just bring more pain. Instead write it down and all your emotions too. When I get the urge to text I keep myself busy until it’s time to sleep.
Yes, you are absolutely right, but the thought 'I don't want him to think I forgot him' keeps eating away at me. But on the other hand, I think it's completely wrong so 🤷♀️
@WildHug913 It’s hard.. my birthday is next month. I hope he doesn’t write. I don’t want to respond and start everything all over. But I don’t want to ignore either. So the best thing is not writing.
@aribari yes I know..honestly I want to cut my fingers 😂
@WildHug913 and you know what hurts the most; seeing other people wishing and celebrating him and you can't be a part of this