Day 3 Healing Tip | Taming the Social Media Obsession
So update I’m now on day 10NC after the reset and the social media obsession of checking my ex socials gone (blocked him anyway so kinda easy)
Well anyway we all know the drill: No Contact means blocking your ex, muting, deleting – making them invisible. It's the gold standard for creating space to heal. But let's be real, especially at the beginning, that stupid, addictive urge to check up on them can feel impossible to control. Easier said than done, right? Even with blocks, us clever Scorpios (and other resourceful kitties!) often find sneaky ways to still peek.
For those moments when going cold turkey on social media stalking feels utterly impossible, here's a strategy I personally used early on, which helped me manage those intense, addictive urges:
The Controlled Weaning Strategy (for the truly addicted kitten):
1. Phase 1 (First Week): Allow yourself to check their socials twice a day, maximum 15 minutes each time. During these specific times, you can "go crazy" – check stories, posts, mutual connections, whatever your brain is craving. The key is stick to the time limit and frequency.
2. Phase 2 (Second Week): Reduce your checking to once a day, for a maximum of 10-15 minutes.Maintain the strict time limit
3. Phase 3 (Third Week): Now, you commit to not checking at all. This is where you lcan use the habits you've built in the previous weeks
4. Final Step: Block, Block, BLOCK. If you haven't already, ensure all accounts are blocked. This feels more manageable after you've already broken the daily habit.
This is a slower process, yes, but for those of us with string addictive urges (and I was definitely one of those kittens!), it can be a more manageable way that isn’t too intense and painful.
I can tell you, this strategy worked for me after the second ghosting. I now find I don't have the urge to check socials anymore. I still think about him, of course, but that huge, addictive rumination and obsessive checking? G O N E.
Hope this tip helps some of you dear kittens out there who are struggling with those intense early urges. You've got this
Last updated on:2025-10-24T13:29:52+05:30
Comments (5)
how long did it take before you stopped feeling that pull to check completely? i’m stuck in phase 2 and it’s so hard
The pull is definitely still there. But with each day, it becomes less obsessive and more gentle easier to ignore.
For me, I was more like I had to set deadlines I didn’t expect to be ready just decided to structure the process a bit. after the second week, when I finally blocked him, that's when the urge to check really started to go down drastically.
But please be so incredibly gentle with yourself. Everyone's journey is unique. It's not really about the time itself; the need does get less, but it might not vanish completely right away. It's more about reaching a point where you become accountable to yourself and truly stick with the promises you've made to your own well-being. So it can be a week two weeks or more just then the healing prolongs
Whats super important tho is to keep yourself busy! Fill your days ideally with healing practices like journaling,meditations, time with friends and family, work, and lots of self-care.
Hope this helps a little❤️
this is actually such a smart way to do it. going cold turkey can be brutal, so easing off makes sense. i used journaling to dump the urges out instead of checking socials it helped a lot.
I’m glad he unfollowed me on IG. and removed me from WhatsApp. those were the apps where he posted his stuff. I would be so crazy if I could see him partying or seeing his likes. I just need to stop posting stuff for him to see on the two apps I still have him.
i remember refreshing my ex’s insta stories like it was my job 😭 i eventually had to block too. it’s wild how freeing it feels once that urge finally dies down.