What to do with all the hand written letters?

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For people like me who have developed the habit of writing letters to their ex every day, what did you do with the letters after you realized you didn’t want to write for them anymore? Did you throw the letters away? Burn them? I want to know. 67 days post break up and I can feel that I am gonna stop writing soon. I even put and sealed them one by one in envelopes😅

P.S. I also made a scrapbook style journal too full with all our pictures and memories😅 I don't know what to do with the letters and journal hehe

P.S. I DON'T NEED ADVICE (ex: move on, love yourself, etc.) COS I AM DOING A THERAPY WITH MY PSYCH. I just want to know someone's perspective about this. Ty

Last updated on:2025-10-25T14:30:59+05:30

Comments (11)

silentme
silentme 4 mths ago

do you think you’d feel lighter if you let them go completely? or do they still feel like a part of your healing process right now?

phineasafm17
phineasafm17 4 mths ago

Now? I think they are still part of my healing process hehe

missladybug
missladybug 4 mths ago

I'm still writing the letters. I bought a journal so they'd all be in one place. I think I'll be writing them forever. can't decide if I'll ever show the notebooks to him

phineasafm17
phineasafm17 4 mths ago

I am actually torn on burning it or sending it to him. I know it won't make any difference. I just want to send it to him so that I can completely move on but right now, all I want is to compile them then Idk what's next hahaha

missladybug
missladybug 4 mths ago

you're so real for this wait.... because like burning it would feel so good but I also want him to read it. getting to the point where I'm gonna give it to him then ask for it back when he's done to burn it

PairMe
PairMe 4 mths ago

i didn’t throw mine out right away either. i waited till i could read them without crying. when that day came, i tore a few pages and kept the rest as a reminder of how much i once felt.

aribari
aribari 4 mths ago

Bury them in a forest

bumblebee
bumblebee 4 mths ago

this is wild😹😹😹

fearlessG
fearlessG 4 mths ago

i wrote him letters for months after the breakup, sealed them like they were sacred. when i finally stopped, i kept them in a box for a year before i could let them go. i didn’t burn them — just tucked them away like an old version of me.

phineasafm17
phineasafm17 4 mths ago

Thank you so much. I'd probably do this. As of now, I really don't have the heart to burn all of it

phineasafm17
phineasafm17 4 mths ago

Everyone has a different timeline so don't bother telling me to move on blablabla... I am still grieving this relationship