Today Is the 2nd day of NC and I felt and talked about this problem with everyone and get to understand the different mindset me and my partner used to have that because of the culture we grown up following. I think, for me it's better to give this relationship the time it needed..and in the mean-time to focus on my career to became a lawyer that I have always dreamt of. But the idea of "move on" haunts me I really felt that I'm losing a person with whom I thought of walking the next chapters of my life. Though he made me felt insecure about everything possible, he made me cried , he threaten me to b'eat ...but there's other thing too .. He never cheated on me .. though I feel that there were micro cheating but there's always a reason for everything,other guys of his age sees the world differently for them the concept of s e x is normal, mostly casual ! but to him the kiss is even something he sees as cheating!
There's other fact like he faced alot as a kid and been through real trauma still he did used to love me ..
but I'm not sure ..even I'm also not wrong from my side ..but extreme insecurity and overthinking about our future together got us to this point. This complex relationship causes the distant and hatred between us and results in this no contact..
I'm not sure he will come back or not as He promised in my name that he would never come again to solve all these ... But still my heart feels like he will come ! but till then I will not message him !!
Though I'm again insecure to the fact that he might be seeing other girls on social media and will be watching p'rn too to cope up with his stress but that fact made me insecure... But still I'll focus on myself more ,will talk with my friends and family rather than overthinking about these nonsense!
"As the thing that my mind is creating are just stories and not real facts !"
May God bless me and other people who are dealing with the same !
Let me know about yours opinion too .
Last updated on:2025-10-27T21:43:43+05:30
Comments (7)
have you noticed any patterns in the moments that triggered your biggest insecurities? sometimes spotting them helps with healing and moving forward a bit
focusing on your career and your own growth is smart. overthinking what he might be doing just drains you—keep your energy on yourself and your support circle
Yes exactly.. I hope you are also doing well
my ex and i had so many unspoken rules and insecurities too. nc really helped me see things clearly and focus on myself. it’s so hard but worth it
I really agree with it ...But I still didn't able to make up my mind whether I'm moving on or just it's a fight between us and we are giving space to eachother... It's Confusing,, I'm not sure whether he would come or not .
we will get thru this🌸
We will for sure ! ❤️🍁