After his apology a week n a half ago, I messaged him two days ago acknowledging that I let my emotions lead the relationship, telling him that m using this space for mysel n for him as well and that m tryna understand him better. I also said that we'll talk at some point about everything when we both ready. He didn't refuse or push me away n when I apologized if anything I said came in as pressure (because he left the relationship as he was emotionally exhausted) he said he understands n it's ok. He didn't engage much, he listened more, but also shared some details (his dog's death, what he's up to etc). since then I feel that after almost two months of the breakup, m no longer panicking, m at peace, loving him from a clearer pov, happy without him but I'd choose him everytime and I'd work things out with him when he's ready. I wish I could let him feel this change in me.. the peaceful love n missing him gently. What do y'all think my next step should be? I think he's not yet in the same place as me, he's probably more in the regaining his peace and grief phase. I do truly love him n he still does.. I know.
Last updated on:2025-10-30T16:32:48+05:30
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do you think you’re holding space for him or waiting for him? there’s a difference, and it might help to know which one you’re doing.
I am holding space for him, n waiting for our right time.
i think your peace is your biggest win right now. maybe don’t rush into showing him that change just live it. sometimes people feel that energy without you saying a word
my ex and i went through that calm after chaos stage too, where i finally felt peace but still loved him deeply. it’s weird how you can miss someone softly instead of desperately
what happens after?
Hope the same will happen to me 🥺
it's a good step but, I still am waitin for our reunion. I really found out that I can live without him but, m not whole without him.
m at peace now. m happy he listens to me n responds immediately. m praying to god he misses me
happy for you. glad you did it