We broke up earlier this month after growing distant following an argument

We broke up earlier this month after growing distant following an argument. Things had been rocky for a while especially after I told him I was uncomfortable with him following and liking lingerie models on Instagram. That conversation marked the beginning of the end. I later heard rumors that he had been flirting with some of my friends not realizing they were my classmates until someone asked how he knew me while exchanging Instagram handles.
In the final stretch of our relationship we were barely speaking just short daily check-ins. When I finally asked what was going on he said he was exhausted and suggested we take a break. But for me his social media behavior had already crossed a boundary and I couldn’t handle the emotional limbo. So we broke up.
A few days later I found out he had a recurrence of cancer. He underwent two surgeries in one week and is now recovering. He had been feeling unwell before but we assumed it was due to his drinking and smoking though we weren’t sure.
Since we were in no contact I had no idea any of this was happening. It seems that during that difficult time someone else stepped in to support him and now they’ve grown close. She was there when I wasn’t. He even gave her the birthday CD I made for him the one with custom artwork and songs two of which were about me. Today he wrote her a new song just like he used to do for me.
She shares stories about how sweet and thoughtful he is. She posts tea recipes for him something that stings because I’m a huge tea lover and he knew that. She even posted the CD not realizing I was the one who made it. The hat he gave her was a custom size he had originally ordered for me. And now they talk about life under the red moon something he and I once did together during summer.
I reached out to him asked about his health and gently brought up the CD. He responded coldly saying he hates how I notice his behavior and told me not to contact him again. So I agreed to go no contact and blocked him.
Right now it seems like he just wants peace and I can’t give that to him. She can. She seems to genuinely care for him. He moved on so quickly. Maybe we were incompatible after all but it still hurts.
I’m trying to accept it. We’re no contact now. I’ve realized I can’t forgive him not for giving away something so personal not for moving on so fast not for disregarding my boundaries. But I do care that he made it through something so difficult. I don’t want to add to his stress. If peace is what he wants I can respect that.

Last updated on:2025-10-29T18:30:05+05:30