What can I do to stop thinking about him?

when he comes to mind, what’s usually the feeling that follows — anger, sadness, guilt, or something else?

what usually helps me is keeping my hands and mind busy gym, journaling, cleaning, anything that moves the energy around. over time, the thoughts lose their grip when you stop reacting to them.

i remember asking myself that exact question every day after my breakup. i’d distract myself for hours, but he’d still show up in my head the second things got quiet. it took me a while to realize it’s not about forcing the thoughts away it’s about letting them pass without feeding them.