hi this is out of context my ex and I (I'm a girl) tried having sxx for more than a year and it has never been successful. we just made out . he's never been able to fully penetrate. it scares me because why couldn't we like most people do? do we have a problem? for me it was my first time so it's kinda painful I couldn't handle the pain I tried getting my muscles relaxed but still we couldn't manage honestly it makes me feel bad I'm I the problem? I'm I too tight? is his d too big?ššš
please help me out I need y'all's advice
Last updated on:2025-11-01T12:32:05+05:30
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were you actually comfortable with him and in the moment? like emotionally safe too, not just physically? sometimes the body tenses up even when we think weāre ready.
I wasss
I've never had sex too but I tried once with my ex and lemme tell you it was embarrassing we even switched position......I'd even told myself that maybe it'll never happened but I was told that when the time is right my body will fully accept it we tend to say yes I'm ready but truly we're not....You don't have a problem when the time is right you'll do it
thankyou I needed to hear this
everytime I kept on telling myself that I was ready but during the act idk I was just scared and every pain I felt made me flinch so bad and scream idk I just feel so embarrassed rnšbut it's okay maybe God was actually trying to protect me
try not to blame yourself, okay? sometimes itās just nerves, tension, or not feeling fully safe or ready in your body. it doesnāt mean either of you have a āproblem.ā
okay thankyou
my first time was really painful too and we couldnāt actually do it either. it made me feel broken for a while, but turns out itās super common and nothingās āwrongā with you
did you finally do it?