I have a question. My and my ex boyfriend who was a narcissist broke up in august. We have seen each other about 3 times to bring back books, clothes and other things. He text me about once a month. Last time was 12 days ago, he said his father had a stroke. Beacause my ex lied constantly about everything, i dont know is this is true. He needs attenction all the time, everything is always about him and was so for the 2.5 years we were together. I think he wants to see if im still there and answer him. He is 48, im 40 years old. Now I have a stress free life. He cant make me cry anymore and make me feel pain and always be a subjekt for gastlighting and manipulation.
My problems now is that i dont really know what to do. I sit alone all the time besides work or seeing my mo or once a while my siblings. I dont have any friends. I enjoy my home but I am out of ideas to do now that I am lonely. I clean my home, watch movies, make it cozy, go on rides with my bike, Wales, make dinner, listen to music. But i'm bored. All I do Is work, come home, shower, make dinner, clean and so it goes everyday. I dont have anyone to do fun stuff with like what I and my ex did. I rather have my mental health and psysical health than being with him. But it feels so quiet.. What do others do in this situation? any ideas?
Last updated on:2025-11-03T01:09:57+05:30
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when you are alone at home how do you feel? do you miss him or just someone there? I am 3 weeks now living back on my own after being with who I thought was my soul mate for the last 4 years 😢I am so lonely and not used to my home being so cold and quiet, I no longer want to live there 😢
I know your pain and I know how you feel. I feel the same. I have so many bad memorys that I dont even want to live in the same area anymore.
I feel lonley. I'm happy about the small things, like my cozy home, but I sit and watch TV alot when im free from work.
I miss him, but I miss what I wanted him to be. It was all manipulation and gaslighting, but I miss the good times althought I dont know if even these moments were real... I think the dark and rainy november weather makes it horder. No sun and warmth to the skin.
How do you cope with your day to day rutines? lots of hugs and love from me.
@Elissa40 I no longer want to live in my area anymore either and it is my hometown and not his and he comes to my local bars to drink so I don’t even want to go out and socialise anymore 😢but then again my only socialising was with him, he was my best friend 😢 I am in my early 30’s and fear I may never have children 😠I have not been coping at all, every day has been a daze and blur, I just want him to come home 😢 but he just won’t and it hurts and I can’t explain the pain I’m in and fear it will never go. sending you so much love and hugs back x
pick up some hobbies like crocheting or reading, things that can keep you focused. Sometimes peace feels like boredom after you've been through chaos for a long time
go on walks. Dont understand why when I write a post , there are so many typing errors.