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She's a bit avoidant, but she's more manipulative, proud, and likes to be in control… too emotionally unstable, afraid to trust

@WildHeart394 mine too.. but I realized one thing that she doesn't actually care about me or loves me. Only thing she cares about is control. I tried bro. I tried hard but she didn't change. avoidants never fucking change. I wish I accepted it sooner. She sucked up my soul. Hurt me. wounded my heart. It took me a lot to finally end things with her not because she kept on hurting me each time but I finally realized that this relationship is never gonna work out. I need to walk away for myself. find a better partner because I deserve a person who will love me the way I do. I hope you understand bro. she will never change. no avoidants do. you're not loving a person anymore. you're in love with a childhood trauma. a condition. a neurological condition. it's way out of our hands. please don't waste your time thinking to get back to her. just move on. heal and be a better person. love yourself.

@EasyDays523 You're right, brother, and thanks for the advice. It's true, they never change. Mine, in fact, has always had problems with her father and always says that men have taken advantage of her... everywhere. She even says she'll never get married again.

@WildHeart394 yeah.. I have researched for like a few months to look into this matter. I talked with people with this issue. I talked to my gfs ex bfs to understand her behavior and I also dig into her family background and past to understand her psychology properly. Bro and let me tell you. When I dug into her past. I was not ready for what I was about to know. She literally was in a relationship with more than 20 boys+older men. even married men. I talked to her room partner. she said she only stays in a relationship for 15 days to a month max and then she just runs into new one. She only uses the relationship to have sex and get some dopamine hits. I was fucking shattered. I dreamed a future with her. she was so nice with me. at first she showed so much affection, support and love and care. I could never have imagined that this was her true face. her family background is also not so different. her mother too is an avoidant I think so. I think she's born with this condition like many other mentally ill persons do. and the worst part. she doesn't know about her mental issue and doesn't even wanna talk or understand.

@EasyDays523 Ooooo 🔥bro I’m really sorry to hear that. you’d well done for asking about her past. a least now you know the right decision to choose.. you can’t help her you not a psychologist she should fight for her mental health so to be ready for a relationship otherwise everything would be toxic…
courage bro