i had a thought when i was going over me and my ex's relationship.
sometimes your partner just feels so comfortable having you and they believe they don't have to win you over anymore, that they forget that you are a person who's feelings always need to be acknowledged and met, not just before making you theirs. they think just because they already have you, they don't need to do anything else and you will just stay with them, so when something does happen and an argument starts or you break up with them, they put on this act again, showing you that they can be the person to meet your needs. but if they can only do that when confronted about it and not without you having to ask, then they are not the one.
and honestly, just thinking about that makes no contact so much easier for me, and reminds me that if he didn't show you the kindness in respect you needed in your relationship, even after you asking, then he definitely isn't going to do it again.
Last updated on:2025-11-04T06:52:02+05:30
Comments (3)
you nailed it. once you really see that pattern, no contact stops feeling like punishment and starts feeling like protection. keep reminding yourself of that when the missing hits
you nailed it. once you really see that pattern, no contact stops feeling like punishment and starts feeling like protection. keep reminding yourself of that when the missing hits
my ex used to switch on the good boyfriend mode only when i was halfway out the door. it’s crazy how they remember how to love you only when they’re scared to lose you