When we broke up he had a problem of following girls and liking their posts and not just any girls… girls who obviously liked him. He even continued to follow this girl that begged him to date her talking about “maybe when you and you’re gf break up we can date” he knew I didn’t like this but when I brought up his following he got so incredibly angry at me saying I didn’t trust him. He called me crazy to the point that word was a trigger to me. He would tell me “nothing is going on you’re doing too much” idk if I believe it now but at the time I did truly believe I was crazy. He definitely made me feel crazy as I was going through followers and profiles. We broke up becuase of this and other reasons and I remember deactivating my instagram for MONTHS in hopes that it would fix my crazy jealousy. one day I asked him “Do you like it better when I’m not on insta?” I was hoping he’d tell me he missed me but he said “yea I do” my heart broke. Once again I thought I was the problem. Realistically he got worse and his following got more disrespectful he even blocked my spam account and when I asked he said “I just didn’t want you to overthink” why? because his following was awful. One day I snapped I was like no fuck this wtf am I doing and I reactivated my account and blocked him on there. You guys don’t do what I did. Don’t let anyone think you’re a problem. Trust your instincts. Don’t EVER settle for someone like that. I used to think all men are like this and it was something I had to put up with but I refuse. The longer I stayed and let shit slide the less he respected me. I’m sure he was ecstatic I wasn’t on insta because he was able to do God knows what. Don’t do this guys never ever do this. Learn from me. He’s not gonna change. A man may love you but he’ll love the attention from others even more than he’ll ever love you. He had a low self esteem and was extremely insecure so he got addicted to attention and little hearts on his stories so much that he pushed me aside. A lustful man will always disappoint you and his heart will never truly be yours because one day he will be put in a place of temptation and he will fail. Learn from me it’s not worth it. It was consistent months after the break up of me crying and getting angry about his following on tiktok as well. Don’t remain friends with someone you once loved. 0/10 it’s the most draining and exhausting experience ever. My hormones were so stressed and off balance that I had my period for 2 months straight. It hurts your mental health and your physical body. PLEASE PLEASE don’t settle. One day someone will love you the way you deserve without limits and you won’t even feel the need to ask them to remove a person who makes you reasonably uncomfortable because they will do it all on their own without asking. I hope you guys stay strong. never look back. I’m still in pain and picking up the pieces of myself I left behind for a man who genuinely couldnt give a shit about me. This is an emotional trauma I have to carry for a long time. DONT DO IT.
Last updated on:2025-11-06T00:08:45+05:30
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when you think back, was there a specific moment that made you realize “nah, i’m not the crazy one”? like the switch flipped and you saw it for what it was?
Yes there was :) the moment he subconsciously confirmed it. He accidentally let it slip that he knew it was wrong but he couldn’t stop and he liked the attention because he felt like the ugly one. Basically said well you always get attention (I never ask for it btw) and I don’t. It clicked that everything was done on purpose. Removing pics while we were still together, letting people disrespectful our relationship. After we broke up he told me “you’re right. you were always right” He even started posting more consistently after these girls followed him but in the whole other time we were together he wouldn’t even show his face. I knew him too well. Wayyy to well more than he knew himself. I always knew but his confirmation solidified it. It was crazy
i learned that when someone makes you feel “crazy” for reacting to their disrespect, it’s a form of control. trust what your body felt back then it wasn’t jealousy, it was discomfort. and that’s valid.
exactly it’s also the shame of being caught
i went through almost the same thing my ex used to call me insecure whenever i’d ask why he was following girls who clearly flirted with him. i stopped trusting my own gut for a long time. it’s crazy how they flip it till we look like the problem.
exactly and when they can’t take the guilt they leave without explanation. But I promise you they know what they did and they’re too emotionally immature to deal with it like an adult so they act like children. it’s all rooted in low self esteem and insecurity. Nothing to do with us
how do you overcome that kind of situation... it hurts so much to be left by the person you love, even after they treated you like trash. I’m in that stage right now... and it just hurts me every time I think about it. I don’t know what to do.
honestly it takes so much time :/ I unfortunately stayed after the break up for 8 more months and I got tired of being treated like this. the best thing you can do for yourself is block him on everything and not talk I know it’s hard. I blocked him and unblocked him multiple times and I even told myself I wasn’t gonna talk to him anymore just to send him a “hey how are you” text and realistically it’s gonna hurt so much but remember it’s better to cry everyday while slowly healing then crying everyday because someone makes you feel worthless
@SoulSync495 that’s so long… I hope it will get better for me soon, I can’t handle the pain anymore
@angelyn I promise you it will. Always remember that the love of your life would never treat you like this. You deserve to be someone’s first and only option not someone that they go to when they have no one else. Never let anyone tell you they don’t want you more than once. Don’t do what I did and stay. My body couldn’t handle the stress and it messed up my hormones so bad like my period and I started breaking out. Being in love is almost like an addiction you have to stay strong through temptation. The longer you stay and let things slide the less respect someone has for you. Don’t do it for them to show them you can stay away. Do it for you and your mental health. I know you probably think “if I stay through everything this person will see that I love them” but in reality it doesn’t work that way. You’re talking to a wall. stay strong it will all pass one day
@SoulSync495 thankyou for this, I'm slowly learning to love myself more and accept things I can't control.... I trust that the pain I'm feeling now will be nothing compared to the happiness I will have soon....