That’s something my mom told me, and I’ll never forget it. With this post I want to share my story and maybe help someone out there feel a little less alone.
My boyfriend of four years cheated on me. When I found out, my whole world collapsed. I couldn’t eat or do anything for two weeks, I just cried. I didn’t recognize myself anymore because I’ve always been a mentally strong person. A part of me didn’t even want to heal because healing meant letting go of him. It meant a new beginning, and it meant he wouldn’t be part of my life anymore. That scared me because I still loved him deeply. But deep down I knew that wasn’t what I truly wanted. I needed to move on.
I started by accepting that I would feel sad and hurt. Every time I wanted to call or text him I wrote down my feelings instead. There’s no magical trick to get over someone faster, you just have to go through it. You will hurt for a while, but trust me, it gets better. You just have to want it.
You deserve someone who loves you just as much and is willing to fight for you. It’s heartbreaking how often we try to find happiness through our partners, but if someone can affect you that deeply, it’s not healthy. You have to find happiness and love within yourself first. One day you’ll wake up and it won’t feel as heavy anymore.
Last updated on:2025-11-05T05:00:04+05:30
Comments (4)
this hit deep. when you started writing instead of texting him, did it actually help you release some of that pain or just distract you for a bit?
you’re right, there’s no quick fix. what helped me a bit was deleting his number and journaling every time i wanted to reach out. it felt pointless at first, but it really helped me see the pattern.
my ex cheated and i remember feeling like i physically couldn’t function. i didn’t even want to heal either, because it meant letting go of “us.” you put that feeling into words perfectly
I like your mom's saying. I'm going to tell myself this every day because it's true!