can you help me with my situation? She broke up with me because she didn't get what she wanted in our relationship for a year, because I rarely sent messages about my daily life and I was really focused on our meetings rather than online communication. She may have given me signals that i'm not really open to her (when were together), but I didn't realize it because this was my first relationship and I didn't know what to do. For two months or more, I tried to talk to her, even begged her, but it didn't work. Although after that deep conversation, we enjoyed the moments we had a little, and she told me about a guy who liked her and she also liked him cause she thinks he fulfill her needs (which may have brought them closer because he listened to her talk about our problems and was there for her after the breakup). After 11 days without contact, she removed me from her Instagram. But on the 9th day before removed, she sent a message about college. Since I didn’t want to overreact, I just replied properly and rarely checked her status. What should I do? I still love her. Did I make everything worse? Is it really over
Last updated on:2025-11-06T17:03:31+05:30
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I was like this me and my ex (who cheated on me btw) got back in contact and decided to work it out, I had changed a lot since we last spoke and put boundaries up and wasn’t as emotional I got called “carless” for it. I waited for an actual apology or change in actions and never got one it’s not worth the stress if someone isn’t willing to love you for you or how you are then don’t beg for it it’ll only make you feel worse and worse everytime
do you think part of why you didn’t open up was fear of saying the wrong thing? or just not realizing how much those small messages mattered to her?
idk i just didnt realize and rarely send a messages to anyone, so i didnt know if thats really matter for her in that moment
don’t chase her anymore. i know it hurts like hell, but right now, she’s looking for something else, and trying to “fix” it will only make you feel worse. just focus on learning from it. next time, you’ll show up differently not out of guilt, but from growth.
idk it feels so unfair, and sometimes I might be able to see them because we're in the same field, why did she moved on so quick. i want us to figure things out
@DreamNJoy781 it really hurts for the past 3 months
this hit me hard. my ex also said i wasn’t “emotionally open” enough. i thought showing up in person mattered more than texting too. it took me a long time to understand that love languages are different, and sometimes that mismatch just breaks things, no matter how much you care. it doesn’t mean you didn’t love her right. it just means you loved in your way.
I wouldn’t bring up another guy if I were still interested in my ex. She might have FOMO and be unsure whether you’re truly the one.
I am her longest relationship, she didn't remove the other exes. Is this because of my attitude after break up or because I started to become cold even though I still replied?
I think you're the one who needs to work on yourself
I preach about temperaments all the time
she's probably a melancholic/sanguine she seeks meaning and fulfillment and you're a phlegmatic--more passive not unbothered but not as intense.
You can try and compromise your personality and be more expressive.
I left mine because of this,deep down I knew he loved me but life's too short to be with someone who doesn't match your intensity
so I really get her and I also get you
just try to compromise your core personality because most need love that's felt not just assumed.
@FrostTap989 But I can change if I realize what she needs. I'm really stupid. I know it's too late, but I've truly loved her from the beginning.It really hurts me to know that she was sad because of me.