Hey. This is my first post, but my bf of 1 year broke up with me a little over a month ago. When he did, I swear I thought the world was ending. Before we were lovers, we were best friends. So losing someone like that was hard. I couldn't even get out of bed. But after some time of letting myself be sad, I pulled myself together and actually got better. Way better then I was before. I struggle with mental health, and I thought the brake up would make it worse. But after some time, it made it better. The best it's been in 8 years! So if you are still reading this, just know. Even though it hurts, even though you don't see a way forward, there is always another path. Even if it's not the one you originally wanted.
Last updated on:2025-11-17T09:17:13+05:30
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it sounds like you’ve found a new kind of peace. what’s been the biggest change you’ve noticed in yourself since the breakup?
thats tough. but for the last 8 years I've been dealing with suicidal thoughts. and sure after the brake up, they got way worse. but after some time, I can happily say, I'm almost 3 weeks free from those thoughts. Being with my ex, I was always putting myself in crisis so than he could have someone to fix. But after, I realized I didn't need to do that. my life is amazing even without him in it the same way he was before
there’s always another path, even if it’s not the one we wanted. whenever i feel that ache creeping back, i remind myself how far i’ve come since the worst days. sometimes just surviving it is the win.
thinking i’d never recover when my best friend-turned-boyfriend left too. it felt like i lost my whole world, not just him. but same as you, once the fog cleared, i realized i was doing better than i had in years. it’s wild how heartbreak can end up healing us in ways we didn’t expect
yeah. It was awful at the start, but it got better. and I'm forever thankful for that