I fell for the hoovering and love bombing all over again and I’m left asking myself how did I let this happen? The person I thought was the love of my life ends up hurting me whenever he’s in a bad mood. It starts with subtle jabs silent treatment and cold one-word or emoji replies designed to sting. Then when I react I’m suddenly the villain. He vanishes and I’m left feeling like I did something wrong.
It’s such immature behavior for a grown man. If it didn’t hurt so deeply it would almost be laughable. I’m exhausted from the constant blame shifting finger-pointing and emotional stonewalling. We should be loving each other working through things together not turning every disagreement into a battlefield.
All I’ve ever wanted is peace laughter and the bare minimum of emotional consideration. But when he’s angry there’s no kindness no empathy just cold detachment. I can’t keep living in this cycle fighting a pointless war that always ends with him walking away.
Last updated on:2025-11-06T22:07:02+05:30
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when he pulls away like that, do you still try to reach out or have you started stepping back for your own sanity?
what helped me was reminding myself that love isn’t supposed to feel like survival. you don’t need to earn peace from someone who keeps taking it away.
i was in something so similar constant walking on eggshells, begging for basic kindness. he’d flip every argument till i was the “crazy” one. it messes with your head. i remember that exhaustion, like you’re fighting just to be seen. you’re not alone in this, really.
I totally can relate, felt same - just went through the most emotionally painful experience over weekend and feel thar the 3 year trauma bond broke, felt like I was dying 💔 but now I feel like it also cut my personal tether to source or god or whoever that I have always felt really strong- don't know how to reconnect that! maybe it's broken forever too!