I dated this guy for a year and he broke up with me on our anniversary. We stayed friends but let’s be honest it wasn’t real friendship. We still slept together occasionally and didn’t want each other seeing anyone else. He kept asking for space saying he needed time to think about whether we should try again. He knew I wanted to give us another chance.
Last Sunday he said he was ready to try again. For a few days he acted like the loving guy I first fell for. But by Thursday his tone shifted and on Friday he told me he didn’t think he liked me anymore and wanted to break up. He always gets overwhelmed with work stress during the week and I’ve told him not to make emotional decisions during those times. He said he needed space and time alone to think.
The worst part? I saw the red flags early on. I knew I should’ve walked away. I’m smarter than this. He’s extremely avoidant manipulative someone who can make me feel worthless one moment and cherished the next. The emotional rollercoaster has left me drained exhausted and dangerously close to giving up.
I miss him physically the closeness the way I’d touch his face his arms his chest. I know I deserve more. There’s no way I can love someone this deeply and not be loved in return by someone who truly sees me.
I tried to help him grow and in many ways he did because of me. But while I helped him become better he made me worse. More unstable. More depressed. I should’ve been the one to walk away but I kept trying to make it work. I’m not a quitter. I give everything to the person I love.
But it still wasn’t enough. He told me he doesn’t feel the same anymore. I didn’t change if anything I bent over backwards to meet his impossible expectations.
This post is long and maybe no one will read it but I needed to get it off my chest.
The ironic part? People always told me I was out of his league. When I shared that I was dating him or that I was heartbroken over him they were shocked and angry. Why him? they’d ask. Eventually I stopped talking about it altogether. I hid my relationship and my pain because everyone said I was blinded by love. And maybe they were right. Sometimes you give someone average a chance and they turn into your biggest heartbreak.
Last updated on:2025-11-07T19:02:03+05:30
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do you think he ever really wanted to try again, or was he scared of losing your comfort? like… did it feel more like love or more like control disguised as love?
when someone keeps needing space but never grows in that space, it’s usually just avoidance in disguise. i know it’s hard, but try not to chase clarity from someone who thrives in confusion. i started healing when i stopped waiting for the next version of him and started missing me again.
i dated a guy who used to need space every time things got real. one week he’d love me, next week he’d vanish like i was too much. it messed with my head so bad. i kept thinking if i just gave him grace or helped him “heal,” he’d love me right. but all it did was break me down. you’re not dumb for hoping. you just loved fully, and he didn’t know how to handle that.