sometimes I think about how me and him used to be before everything went downhill. we were so happy together and I couldn't ask for anything more untill he started becoming more and more controlling and manipulative. I stayed for a while longer despite knowing he had hurt me quite a few times and the arguments were non-stop over small actions I did. he was draining me, badly. I could tell I was losing myself and in the end after an argument I ended it knowing I didn't want to but I couldn't handle it any longer. He promised to get better and come back to me when we were both ready and he said he would try and understand me more but whenever I voiced out he would put the blame on me. a couple days after me and him broke up he accused me and got his and my 'so-called' friends to send me death threats and call me any name possible. it hurt me badly as I still loved him yet I can't stop thinking about how we used to be. is this wrong for missing him? I can't tell if I'm feeling anger, hurt, or longing.
Last updated on:2025-11-11T05:18:02+05:30
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when you think about missing him, do you miss him or the peace you hoped you’d have with him if things had stayed good?
it’s totally normal to miss what you thought you had. what helped me was remembering that missing him doesn’t mean i should go back. it’s just part of grieving the version of love i wanted.
oh this is so true. I say I hate him yet I think I just hate that he doesn't love me like how he used to anymore.
my ex also turned everyone against me after i left. i missed him for months even after all the chaos. it’s not wrong to miss someone who hurt you… it just means you cared deeply.
I know I did he js used it against me saying I didn't and made me out like the bad guy. how long did it take for you? this only happened in mid October and I feel like I'm getting worse again.