my ex and I were together for over a year but we've had several fights lately cause im the one who makes all the plans and shows the effort. my ex has never been good in this but lately it felt he became worse. he didn't even call me anymore but at the times we were together it still felt like he cared about me and wanted to be with me. in the last few fights i told him that im really tired of him not making plans or anything and that he only spends time on gaming after work while there are important things to do. i told him that it makes me quite unhappy. he acted a bit distant this week and took longer to reply my texts but he still sent hearts the day he broke up with me and told me that same day that his parent and him could pick me up in the weekend. only a few hours later he stood in front of my door in tears to tell me that he thinks its better for us to break up because we both feel unhappy and he can't make me happy because he thinks he needs help and he doesn't know how to express his emotions. he told me that he hopes that maybe we can get back together in the future but he needs to work on himself first. he said that he still wanted to have contact and for us to be friends (ive got a bad experience with situations like that so i told him i prefer not to). he said goodbye with one last hug and he held me the entire time while i was crying. he said about a 100 times that he's unsure of his descision and that he's afraid that he makes a big mistake by breaking up and he was crying a lot. he went home and he never texted me after this. its been 3 days now and i have my exam tomorrow and he knows that. he didn't even sent a text to wish me luck. idk whats wrong with him but it feels so unfair to me. i was such a caring and loyal girlfriend and i did so much for him and he kind of impulsively broke up with me and doesn't even talk to me anymore or at least only send good luck for my exam. no way that im gonna text him but i feel frustrated as hell
Last updated on:2025-11-11T01:52:03+05:30
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do you think he really meant the “maybe we’ll get back together” part, or was that his way of softening the blow?
try not to chase clarity from him. people who leave mid-confusion usually don’t even know what they want yet. focus on your exam first, then on YOU. he already knows what he lost.
my ex did almost the same thing said he “needed to work on himself” but went cold right after. it’s confusing when their words sound caring but their actions don’t match