How to stop overthinking that, "She'll be happy with someone else"
Like I'm not able to digest a thing that She'll in future try to find someone who she wanted me to become ... & honestly I was otw of it..... but she still left in between... if she would've waited i would've been a guy she ever wanted..... Feeling so hurt to see her giving importance to someone which I used to get, Laughing with everyone BUT NOT ME
It hurts to be like that....
It was my first & longest relationship 7+ years
& I'm not able to move on !!
Last updated on:2025-11-12T18:20:08+05:30
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do you still have contact with her, or are you trying no-contact? sometimes that’s what really helps slow the overthinking.
I'm trying not contact as her last words where "Don't reach out to me 🙏", even though I only tried to comfort her with how's she doin' but she got defensive in that as well & kept on replying rudely ...
so yeah all I'm trying is to maintain no contact
Been there brother. We've been together for 10 years. got engaged and planning to get married next year. She cheated on me. Here is my formula Acceptance+forgiveness=detachment. I know it's hard king, however, you don't have a choice but to move forward. You cannot completely detach if you will not accept the truth.
so much power to your brother🫂,10years?... & she still chose someone else to be with for rest of her life..... I can't even imagine how you might be suffering rn ... it's disastrous
@huhh I lost my spark, i crumbled, I lost everything. She was my world bro. However, I was able rise and see the light. My friends really helps a lot. it's been 3 months since we broke up. I even see her with her new partner. I am happy for her that she was able to find the love she deserved. always remeber 👑. In chess, the game only ends if the king falls. Sometimes, you have to sacrifice the queen for you to win.
i’ve been there comparing yourself to her future happiness only drags the pain longer. focus on yourself and small steps to heal, it helps more than you think.
what goes thru my mind is, I wish he feels my absence and realise his loss then I think his probably so happy with his x returning that I will next even cross his mind let alone thoughts
same mann I want her to know that what she have lost or let go...
my first long relationship ended too, and i kept thinking “if only i’d been enough.” it takes time to stop replaying it
I had same thought that he is going to find someone else and be happy 😊 It hurts the c worst because all my other ex boyfriends did the same and they are still together but not me just sucks
I struggle with overthink too- try to feel the emotions behind the thoughts and EFT tap t hem out- you can find videos on utube