I am so Ashamed in myself that I tolerated unbelievable verbal abuse to the point it fucked with my self esteem and self worth đź’”
Last updated on:2025-11-12T16:05:05+05:30
Ashamed
I am so Ashamed in myself that I tolerated unbelievable verbal abuse to the point it fucked with my self esteem and self worth đź’”
Last updated on:2025-11-12T16:05:05+05:30
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welcome to the world of having a heart. unfortunately it's always the good ones who tolerate the crap thrown at us because we love them and really want it to work out. so be proud of yourself that you're out now, it's time to work on you. YOU GOT THIS, we're here for you
thank you! kicking myself for not leaving it be earlier
@DashRay355 don't kick yourself anymore. I'm still battling with my emotions and feelings as it's only been 6 days with no contact but it hurts every single day. no l don't want him back but the rejection is hard to deal with all the same.
you didn’t know better love it’s okay don’t beat yourself up. and trust me it gets better. you will get it back ❤️
how long were you in that situation? curious because i’ve noticed the longer it goes, the deeper the self-doubt digs in
3 and a half years
love is very simple thing. tolerance will not make you a great lover. trust me this how our minds think.
you thought love was enough don't blame yourself. I went and am going through the same thing it was to the point where I would tell myself don't upset him don't say something wrong. I had to hide how I was feeling. honestly my self worth never felt do low but getting a ego boost helps alot I went on fb and tiktok started posting pictures and 100 of guys are in my DMs. I'm not replying to any emotionally I'm nor ready but the compliments helps
I'm right with you here. it was all about keeping his peace, making him happy, not saying anything that will upset his spirit. all that whilst I'm disappearing and becoming a shell of myself all to please him. each day I have no contact with him, I'm proud of myself because I know how much I love this guy. I can't wait for my heart to heal
@Ventara953 I hope it's getting better day by day I feel like every day is torture I know he treated me badly but I still love him and I want to talk to him I keep thinking is he even missing me is he in the same pain that I am
it’s rough, i get it. sometimes just naming the abuse and letting yourself feel it without judgment helps a little. journaling or talking to someone safe helped me a ton.
ohh i feel this in my bones i stayed in a verbally abusive relationship for years too, it really shatters your confidence. you’re not weak for surviving it
not sure how to fix that
you don't fix it, it will fix you.
before long it will all make sense and you'll start to smile again and your heart will feel happiness. Well that's what I tell myself anyway and reading and replying to comments on here also helps me to push through another day