how can i stop ?

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since i broke my with my boyfriend of 2years who I thought i will marry , i found out that i have anxious attachment , when someone is busy or needs space for them selves i feel like its my fault or i am not doing enough or they don’t feel good with me so i get so scared , i tried to talk to new boys but every time a man gives a little amount of attention I feel like i want to talk to him all the time and be close to him all the time even if we are not in a relationship and we only talked for one day , if he doesn’t reply to my messages i get so stressed and sad and scared , I really need a solution because sometimes the man clearly doesn’t want me and i still do efforts for them wich makes me looks stupid

Last updated on:2025-11-12T04:06:06+05:30

Comments (5)

Eillmo
Eillmo 4 mths ago

have you tried setting tiny boundaries with yourself? like limiting how often you check messages it’s hard but can calm that panic a bit.

zero01one
zero01one 4 mths ago

i will try

NoClosure
NoClosure 4 mths ago

what helped me was really focusing on myself first journaling, keeping busy, and reminding myself that someone needing space isn’t a reflection on me. small steps, but it works.

Selfylover
Selfylover 4 mths ago

i had the same anxious attachment after my breakup, every little delay in messages felt like a disaster. it’s exhausting, but it’s not your fault

PogoBun805
PogoBun805 4 mths ago

yeah i know how that can feel. like ur on ur toes all the time.